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Miss Kitty Lou · Work

I'm doing a job that I hate, except hate isn't the word. Just thinking abouit that place makes me feel ill inside.

I'm qualified only to do retail, because art courses seem to mean shit in the real world. My web design skills are far too sketchy to get me a web design job, and I cant get on a course till the end of the year.

I don't know what to do, all I know is I can't stay where I am now. I spent my whole second break crying in my car today, and was still fighting back tears when I had to go back to work.

I can't do this anymore, someone help?

smudge

Get out. It's just a job.
Yes I know it's hard finding another one but you don't have to put up with something that gets to you that much just to be able pay the bills.

You're a talented lady and there's bound to be something out there that would fit you. It's easy to get depressed by all the jobs that you don't seem qualified for. If there's something you'd really like to do, how about getting in by the side door? Every company needs admin staff or will have some kind of junior positions. If you're really enthusiastic about their industry maybe you'd have an advantage - and once you're in then you'd get contacts and advice about how to proceed.

Alternatively, if there's things you can do in your spare time that really interest you that could become work eventually, then really concentrate on those so work just becomes a break in between doing other things. (I'm talking about real discipline here, early mornings and late nights - you'd be surprised just how quickly you progress)

Please don't get upset, we're all here to help. (We may not be that helpful but we mean well...)

Pieman

Kitty, there isn't much we can say other than get a new job if this one is that bad, then find another retail job as an interim solution.

If you are looking to do a course at the end of the year then that can help you in a specific direction and should give you some hope.

As smudge said, there are some admin jobs that you could get into, I was quite lucky in finding the admin job I have at the hospital when I was looking, and although it can be mind numbing and repetitive it is far more enjoyable overall than when I had my retail job.

If you want to chat then give me a call tonight, I should be free after about 8.30/45 as I have Cubs before then. I think I gave you my number on facebook but I'll PM it to you on here as well.

Simon

Minnie the Minxtress

Sweetheart... if you're that upset and hate it so much inside.. then get out.

Do a risk assessment... health V money? If you need to work for money then find a job, any job that brings some money in but doesn't make you feel like cracking up.

Life is far far too short to be unhappy like that... I've done so many jobs that I took for money and hated most of them, but plodded on because of circumstances and fear of my kids not having food on the table BUT - at a cost to my health.

So darling, earn money elsewhere. It's all about mindset. If you work elsewhere, then tell yourself it's not forever.. it's just till say 6 months away.. that way, you have a goal.. in the meantime, network and investigate other things so that you can have something to strive for .

Sorry if it's waffly - but have been in your shoes too many times and recently did the same... got into an evening job to earn money as I was feeling guilty that I'd become a full time student. But.. on my first night - I hated it so much, I realised I'd made a decision based on guilt, not desire or even dire necessity. So I walked up to the boss and said 'sorry - it's not for me...' took my uniform off and walked out. I almost sobbed with relief.

Then... quite out of nowhere I got an offer that seemed like a dream and I've been running along doing that part time whilst I study..

Kitty - if it hurts.. leave it. The Universe will send you something lovely if you honour what's right for you in your heart and make a change. Smile

Broomy

Listen to the advice posted darling, and heed it. You can always go temping to pay the bills.
For what it's worth when I was in my late teens, after leaving college, I worked in a fashion house in central London. All my friends thought that I had a glamourous job. But the reality was that I was a dogsbody, stuck behind a sewing machine, and whenever I produced an original idea, others simply plagiarised it. All those design skills that I had learned seemed to be for nothing. Many a day found me in tears, unable to cope.
A chance meeting with someone put me in an entirely different direction, and today I am a Paramedic. I have delivered babies, have resuscitated heart/stroke/epileptic/diabetic victims. I have rescued building site accident victims. I deal with the disabled, set broken bones. I have worked in the air ambulance, as well as the more down to earth road vehicle. Nothing gets the adrenalin going like putting on the sirens and lights and then violating all the traffic laws. As you would expect, I do see some grim sights, but when you save a life, there is nothing in the world to compare, except perhaps, delivering a baby.
This kind of work is not for the feint hearted, and I am only relating it to you, so as to make you aware, that you never know what tomorrow brings. Dry your eyes and lift your chin up and pick up the phone to the agency. xx

ClaudiaAtlantis

I know how you feel sweetie....I also understand that, although it is only a job, it is hard to leave. There are bills to pay and it's not that easy to get a better job.

Seems like we've both been crying over this stuff today!!! I just did an 8 hour shift (I got a break to day for a change!) and have a 9 hour one starting tomorrow at 6.30am. Then had to put up with the housing benefit office telling me I lied about stuff and owe them money. I also had my parents telling me I was fat, shouldn't do modelling or burlesque (they're both 20 stone) and that I should get a proper job.

Sorry to hijack your thread with my own rubbish but I just want you to know I genuinely understand how crap life can be. Lets cry together. Ready? Go!!!!

Miss Kitty Lou

Miss Kitty Lou

Herr Geist

On the subject of having a job you hate:

I am not a very submissive person. I don't tend to like following the rules set in place by others. I have followed these rules all my life and I finally said "ENOUGH!"

I started a successful burlesque troupe in Florida but I had to resign when I began to feel that it was heading in the wrong direction. Now I do everything I can to support myself. I'm doing everything I possibly can to start up my own business and live out my dreams. It's a hard road and right now it's not so lucrative. But it will be some day.

I guess I'd rather live a while in poverty if it means I will ultimately be happy. I've found out that you will win some and lose some and things don't always go as planned, but I won't give up.

It does suck being broke in the meantime, but that won't last forever! Wink

ClaudiaAtlantis

Cocktails sound so good right now but I dont have the energy for a punchbag. I have finally taken a sick day and my manger made me feel so guilty for it that I cried for half an hour.

Miss Kitty Lou

Auntie Bettie

Now my dear ladies, what is all this crying for? now dry your eyes and pour a gin.

Firstly, people will only get what they are prepared to accept, for many we give this out on a subconcious level which is why we may be the ones that everyone dumps that rather heavy file of urgent typing on ones desk at 4.30pm which Mr Mainwairing needs sent out with the 5.30 post.

One of the most terrifying words in the english language is confrontation, us Brits seemed dashedly wet in it's application. Confrontation is not a negative thing, it is asserting ones self.

Miss Claudia and Miss Kitty you are both well on the way to better things as you have given your distress words and are out there striving for more, it will come, you will find it you just musn't give up. Dear Ruby has been living like a squalid little hussie for the last few years after taking a change in direction, although saying that she lived like a squalid little hussie before that too (all her wages would go on champagne and make-up - disgusting), enough of that, I digress.

I was once asked in a job interview why I didn't have a degree, I looked the young whipper snapper firmly in the eye and replied "Why, do you think I need one?" that was him firmly knocked into a cocked hat! and needless to say I got the job.

The night is always darkest just before dawn, and in the mean time you are part of a very special world of people who all care for you and remember the words of our dear Mr Churchill ~ Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.

You are bright vivacious women and you know what you deserve so stand up and jolly well take it.

Fondest love my little ones,
Your ever faithful,
Auntie Bettie

Ruby Divine

Hey Kitty,

Just wanted to say I know how you feel and keep on trucking - they say you have to hit the bottom before you bounce back up, and I'm sure your bounce is just around the corner. It feels like its going to be impossible to get out of the slump when you're in the midst of the blighter, but guaranteed it will happen and you will soon be looking back on this time from a better place.

Hope you feel better soon, keep that chin up lady, you can do it! xx Wink

EllaEmerald

I hate work too.
xx

Miss Baby Bones

thats crap, agencies should be helping you find work.

in the past i found them useless too.

how about other work from home?

or going part time in that place, and part time in another?

i hated shop work as everyone was so rude to me. i coped by doing mixed days in lots of shops throughout the week so i always escaped!

xxx

DarklyDelicious Millicent

hi

good advice all round, been there many times.....I hate a job so much it affects my health I am out in a flash.....and then i just temp, have a go at anything at least temping you can take it or leave it!

Dont let it get you so down just get out....6 months will fly believe me!

And money is not the be all and end all.............the people around me who are very wealthy are the most unhappy people i have met! The people with little money are happier and freeier! That included me! I struggle all the time but thank fully I am not into having the latest material things and must haves.

Take things one step at a time and you will be fine!

BUT leave that job NOW well ok the day after your paid!

xx

Miss Kitty Lou

I've applied for a job that would be perfect, am just waiting to hear back. Keep your fingers crossed for me please.

Herr Geist

*crosses fingers*

If you need me to fly to the UK and "encourage" them to hire you, I will. Wink

Ruby Rose

Everything I own is crossed!

Ruby
x

Pieman

I'm crossing the circuit boards on my pc as we speak, as well as my fingers and toes!!!!

EllaEmerald

Let us know if you get it, good luck kitten!