Eva_Vertigo
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Single minskies?Having finally got round to deleting Unsuitable Man from my facebook friends and deleting his ancient text messages from my phone I am feeling quite inspired. In fact to mark the occasion I had a new tattoo done yesterday (any excuse) and for the first time in ages I can say I'm happy to be single. Before I always said it with the disclaimer '...though I'd still like to meet the man of my dreams tomorrow'. I'm not on an 'all men are b*stards' rant- of course they're not, and girlies can be just as bad, but it's nice being able to do what I want, when I want. Are there any other single minskies to share my joy? I'm going to put all my energy into eating banan muffins and working on my new routine.
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Herr Geist
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I have chosen to remain single for various reasons over the past 5 years. Some of that has to do with work and how much I had to travel. Some of that has to do with just enjoying the freedom that being single grants you. I will say that I got lonely now and then for the first year or two, but now I am extremely happy being alone. No pressure. No surprises. No living in fear of saying the wrong thing. Just being friends with females provides enough of that to keep the quota filled. haha.
Anyway, I think it's healthy to enjoy and be comfortable alone. That way, you don't go running headlong into the very next relationship that presents itself. You'll think about how much you enjoy being single and you'll think to yourself, "Okay, is this person worth giving all of this up?" It's true what they say, you have to love yourself before you're able to love someone else.
Glad things are going better for you. Sounds like you hit a really great milestone today. Just don't write guys off. I know that one day, some amazing woman is going to enter my life and I'll be helpless to resist. I'm open to it. I'm just not looking. It's a good way to be.
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feline groovy
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I decided to embrace my inner "spinsterhood" once, and got myself all prepared for single life, the cats, the flat, the "cooking for one" book etc and may I say that I was very happy indeed. And I really mean that, I could see the rest of my life spread out before me pleasing only myself (and said cats obviously).
Only problem is - a month later I met the man who was to become my husband!
Moral of story, I think, is that when you stop looking and are happy with yourself it is amazing how many people flock to you! Guess because they're not under any pressure, because you're not expecting anything from them. Or something like that!
Good luck!
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Miss Kitty Lou
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I'm single and prefer it, it's nice not having to worry about what someone else wants. And seeing as I love having my own space (a lot) it works out better this way.
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Minnie the Minxtress
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| Quote: | | Moral of story, I think, is that when you stop looking and are happy with yourself it is amazing how many people flock to you! |
How true is THAT!!!!!
When I was single and living with my three daughters and my dog, it was so strange at first and I thought I'd never get used to it. The things that scared me were the manly stuff like fixing taps, burst pipes, or stuff up in the loft (I don't like heights or ladder climbing!).
However.. other than that, I loved it... absolutely loved it.
I decorated my bedroom to be exactly how I wanted it, loads of pillows, a furry throw and little lamps to make the room cosy and it was totally MINE! One of my most favourite things was going to bed early with loads of books, a big mug of hot chocolate with cream on top and some truffles. I'd get all propped up on my pillows, read my books and then watch Sex and the City while the dog snored close by.
Just when I was getting soooo used to my own company.. I met my beloved. I was NOT looking at all.. in fact I was loving the 'aloneness' of it all...(Although I did miss big hugs and the hairy arms that wrap around you, if you know what I mean)  .
That was 6 years ago now... and although I don't want to be single again, I know I can do it...and I think it made my girls realise that it's ok to be alone without a partner and be happy even when you are too.
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feline groovy
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Yep! That's what I trying to say!!
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