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smudge

head vs. heart

Dearest Auntie,
I find myself in a postition where I may soon be facing yet another battle between head and heart, and I'm not particularly looking forward to it.
Being the intensely practical yet spontaneous type, life seems to throw things my way that I have trouble dealing with.

I was wondering then, how does one choose which body part to listen to when each choice is as valid as the other?

Obviously, it's silly getting worked up over something that hasn't happened yet, and everything may work out fine without aforesaid internal conflict, I just like to be prepared...

Apologies if I'm being vague.

Your loving nephew
EllaEmerald

That is too vague! I would say follow your heart until the pain is so unbearable you'll be willing to start listening to your head, lets face it, thats what most of us do anyway!
xx
Auntie Bettie

My dear dear boy,

When you reach my age you will realise that thinking with your heart is nothing but the impetuous folly of youth. What ever quandary you may be in be sure to take time away from it to see the problem clearly and to take a moment to see what your gut reaction tells you. The heart is a fickle thing that will lead you hither and thither in the course of its' desires, it's like giving a five year old a map and asking it to navigate you out of London after you have been air dropped in Trafalgar Square.

There is of course another thing that you have failed to mention. You state that you are getting worked up before the event is even upon you, be careful you do not spend too much time in your head, to much thinking can only result in a great deal of confusion.

In the words of my dear friend Friedrich ~ "There is always some madness in love, but there is also always some reason in madness."

You ever loving Aunt,

Bettie.
Broomy

Dear Aunt Bettie, your head, heart,advice that you gave Smudge is good counsel, I feel a tad embarrased to ask you to ponder on my little dilemma. I am serious this time.
My kitchen is rather shabby and I am really looking forward to updating it. We have saved the spondoolicks and I intended to start looking at kitchens at the end of the month.
From time to time we get invited to dance an exhibition Jitterbug at so called Military Weekends, we did so last weekend, in Weymouth. Whilst there my other half fell in love with this hussy
http://www.carandclassic.co.uk/car/C13714
Now we/he are torn between "her" and the kitchen.
Some points to consider. We don't like debt, so wouldn't be prepared to buy one and finance the other. She will gain in value. We only cook about three times a week. There is only the two of us, so we tend to cook a surplus and freeze the excess for a later date. I had the last expensive purchase. My Harley. But he had the one before, his jukebox.
This is not a wind up, and the reason I feel embarrased is because I know that some of the girls are out of work, so it really is flippant to, well sort of show off like this. Decisions, decisions, what to do?
Auntie Bettie

My dear sweet Miss Broomstick,

I think you have already answered you own question. You are trying to decide whether or not to make an investment in something you love or to invest in something that will depreciate once assembled.

The answer is clear for all my dear, all I ask is that you take Miss Ruby and I for a little trip round the block in it.

Yours as ever,

Auntie Bettie
DarklyDelicious Millicent

Hi Smudge

I always follow/listen to my instincts....they have never failed me unless i didnt listen to them which has been very few and far between!!! Very Happy

xx
smudge

Sound advice one and all, and many thanks for replying. I shall do my best not to dwell on things and then weigh everything up as objectively as I can when (if) a decision needs to be made.
Auntie, your thing about being optimistic and crying later is exactly what I'm trying to avoid!

hey ho..
EllaEmerald

Hope it all works out for you Smudge...whatever it is!
xx
Auntie Bettie

smudge wrote:
Auntie, your thing about being optimistic and crying later is exactly what I'm trying to


Dearest one,

I'm afraid I'm going to have to let you into a secret. That little quote was put there mainly for the ladies, as we are shockers for acting with our heart without engaging brain as illustrated by this jolly helpful Public Service Announcement.

But please keep this under your hat.

Yours,

Auntie Bettie
Bella Claire

Broomstick Pilot wrote:
Dear Aunt Bettie, your head, heart,advice that you gave Smudge is good counsel, I feel a tad embarrased to ask you to ponder on my little dilemma. I am serious this time.
My kitchen is rather shabby and I am really looking forward to updating it. We have saved the spondoolicks and I intended to start looking at kitchens at the end of the month.
From time to time we get invited to dance an exhibition Jitterbug at so called Military Weekends, we did so last weekend, in Weymouth. Whilst there my other half fell in love with this hussy
http://www.carandclassic.co.uk/car/C13714
Now we/he are torn between "her" and the kitchen.
Some points to consider. We don't like debt, so wouldn't be prepared to buy one and finance the other. She will gain in value. We only cook about three times a week. There is only the two of us, so we tend to cook a surplus and freeze the excess for a later date. I had the last expensive purchase. My Harley. But he had the one before, his jukebox.
This is not a wind up, and the reason I feel embarrased is because I know that some of the girls are out of work, so it really is flippant to, well sort of show off like this. Decisions, decisions, what to do?







id get the car........ Very Happy then sell it later and get the kitchen done.... Very Happy
Broomy

Now there's a thought, thank you for that.
Ruby Rose

Whenever I've listened to my heart before my head I've always had my fingers very very burnt. So now the head gets in first as I don't trust my heart one bit. Gut instinct is the real way forward it keeps you safe from the sharks and shysters of this world.

Ruby
x
EvaBraun

I agree with Ruby but am afraid it's the heart for me everytime. However since I have been happily ensconced with my beloved such situations only really occour on shoe shopping binges where indeed the heart always rules. So what if my new Westwood shoes have stripped my eating privileges this month?
You never can be too rich, or thin...
Man In A Hat

I belive smudge that your problem may be that you are only conisdering the opinion of two parts of your body. I belive that many men have for years practiced the art of listning to a part of the body that does not appear to have risen to your attention.

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